Are You Spiritual or Religious?

Do You Know the Difference Between Being Spiritual or Religious? Does it matter? 100 years ago in this country people who loved each other couldn’t or wouldn’t get married because they loved someone who wasn’t the same religion as they were. But today, but at least in our society, couples have much more freedom to choose whether they are spiritual or religious. Or their own unique combination of both. Your marriage ceremony should reflect how you define yourself, and how this will be reflected in the words of your ceremony. When I interview a couple, I never assume whether they are spiritual or… Read More »

Make the Choice, Don’t Worry About It

If you ever get the chance to make the choice to live around the 45th Parallel, you will REALLY learn to appreciate summer. Being outside, smelling the air, hearing the waves on the beach nearby. Humming to nature. There’s nothing anywhere else in the country that equals the beauty here in the Traverse City area. Summer Do’s In summer, life seems to speed up but the change of pace is because our focus goes from inner (where it’s slower) to outer (where movement and choices make time pass quicker). The summertime is where the yes’s to the opportunities of life we chose during the inward journey of winter… Read More »

Best Foot Forward at Gay Weddings

Gay Weddings Are No Different Lesbian and gay weddings are no different from opposite sex weddings. Yet you may feel unprepared for a gay wedding you have been invited to. As I reported in the first part of this series, I started out on rocky though well-intentioned ground when I was first introduced to gay people. I didn’t want to be uneasy, but I was — for a while. Maybe you do feel uneasy, though I hope you don’t. We make too much out of things that are none of our business. But here we are, finding out how human we all… Read More »

Gay Love, Gay Weddings

Gay Love Appears Truly accepting gay love was a process for me. It was an idea that hadn’t been touched by experience. As a hippie, I debated legalizing pot, supported free love as often as I could. I was unaware that the closer I put the stereo speakers to my ears when Janice Joplin or Jimi Hendrix albums played, the less I could hear when I was older. I demonstrated against the war in Vietnam, joined the 1969 March on Washington. I was politically correct and I was politically upset. When I decided to learn how to shoot a gun… Read More »

21 Unique Dates

… to Keep Your Marriage Interesting Download here:  21 Unique Dates Over the years I have asked my couples what issues bother them the most. (I’d love to hear from you on this subject too). More than anything else they tell me not having enough time to spend together is a sore spot. Is this true for you too? Because life happens despite our hopes and best plans. Getting a grip on success curls up around our toes and we trip over making connections with people we can help or can help us. Our best plans are pushed aside for seemingly urgent calls… Read More »

Tapping into Millenniums’ Power

When you go to a sports event how many of you get caught up in the energy of the moment? Have you found yourself uncharacteristically screaming at the top of your lungs for the runner to slide into home plate? Or the quarterback to hurry up and pass the football to the running back? There are no sports genes in my body, and yet I too have found myself caught up at events, waving my hands and getting extremely excited – and that’s NOT my usual MO. Exciting Situations Why does this happen? Because you and I – everyone —… Read More »

Happiness Is

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi In September, as I was preparing to perform a wedding ceremony, I was inspired to begin including in my wedding words something new.  For me anyway… “You are called not to make each other happy, but to be happy together.” I know this may sound contrary to much of what couples love about being together. Many of them tell me, “He or she makes me so happy.” This sentiment and feeling is real. And it’s a wonderful feeling to have. But the reality is… Read More »

Be With The One You Love

Be With the One You Love As time goes by faster, and Fall is in our inbox, I am becoming more and more enamored by meditation. Recently I heard a meditation teacher talk about taking this journey inward just because it feels good. Not to “get” peaceful, or receive any answers but just because it feels better to become quiet and centered than wanting something to happen. And as these ideas unfolded, by watching my breathing and just letting my breath go in and out, not attaching to them in any way, I actually was just…well…breathing. Distractions fell away and for… Read More »

Love’s Priorities

Priorities. Who knew there would be all those little things to manage in putting together your wedding? Hopefully, taking care of so many details is slowing down for you. Your wedding plans have more than likely come together. If not, you are probably very close to having things settled. Putting your wedding together has been a priority. You can congratulate yourselves on getting so much accomplished. Your wedding is bound to bring you and your guests so much joy! Soon it will be time to wonder what’s next. Life goes on. For most of you, careers are still to be built. Children conceived and  raised.… Read More »

Give a Great Wedding Toast

Have you ever given a wedding toast? Does the thought of standing in front of a lot of people make your palms sweat weeks before the event? Do you forget everything you ever knew about the bride or groom you are toasting? Believe me, you are not alone. You are probably an introvert and we don’t thrive on public speaking. If you can handle it without any sweat, well, you were made for the spotlight. You my friend, are an extrovert. I love receptions where the best man and maid of honor give a short and meaningful wedding toast /… Read More »

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