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Your Friend Officiant- Pluses & Minuses

Are you looking for a professional Officiant? Or do you have a friend Officiant?  Here are some minuses — and pluses of the latter! First of all, let me cut to the chase. Don’t make this event — your wedding ceremony — TOO CASUAL. As a culture, a society, we’re definitely moving into a time of challenging norms and reinventing roles. But there are some norms that deserve preserving (wow a rhyme!) One of them is the brevity (and yes, of course, the joy) of the event. There is a responsibility taking place via your ceremony that is going to… Read More »


Little Love Teachers

Children

  (You can listen to Rev Crystal read this blog post and multitask to your heart’s content!) What’s the single most wonderful thing about having children? Narrowing it down to one characteristic might be pretty difficult, but let’s give it a go anyway. I’ve never had children so I’m asking you what you think. My first guess is they are little love teachers. Bring Out the Softness Alicia explained how her young daughter is a comfort to her as she adjusts to the passing on of  her grandmother she was so close to. Her son will tell her out of… Read More »


Don’t Let Regret Ruin Your Future

  Every morning I go through the same ritual. I write what I appreciate, evidence of what’s going well, 5 things I need to do that day, and how I want to show up (energetic, loving, smart, prosperous, etc). Then I write out what I want my life to look like, kinda like my personal screen play. In addition, since my mother passed on in December of 2017, I choose a card from The Soul’s Journey Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh (JVP). JVP communicates with those who have passed on. I like to think because James is tuned into… Read More »


Ritual of Unity — Sand Ceremony

Traditional Ritual of Unity A traditional ritual of unity is the Candle Lighting Ceremony used in many weddings. The lighting of two candles represents the individual light of each person. The couple lights one large pillar with their individual candles to represent their coming together in one light. However, when a ceremony is held outdoors, wind can be unpredictable. Candles can be easily blown out. No Lights Out A Unity Sand Ceremony can take place regardless of the wind or weather. Because Sand is such a flexible medium a couple isn’t faced with the question, “Does this mean the light… Read More »


First Look Pros and Cons

  A First Look  The First Look is a scheduled time for a couple to see each other all put together and ready prior to the ceremony taking place. First Looks are a break from tradition, and you have to weigh the pros and the cons. Before deciding if you want to take this unconventional break, consider these do’s and don’ts. An Intimate Moment Together Alone The wedding day is filled with moments…being walked down the aisle…exchanging rings…dances…speeches… hugs and kisses…and everyone who attends your wedding will want time with you. You may wave at your new spouse from across the room more… Read More »


In the Midst

This stained glass nativity scene was created by my mother some 20 years ago. She is truly talented, making many gorgeous art pieces throughout her life. I live in the midst of her art in my home. She surrounds me not only in her art, but because we are bonded, mind, body and soul. It’s a deep bond as I’m sure you know from your own life. In the Midst As I write this last of our eNewsletters, I’m sitting next to her bed in her assisted living room. The stark truth is she is dying. She’s 93 and really… Read More »


Give Thanks for Your Bills

Piggy bank

Give Thanks? This sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? I get it. Who likes to pay bills? And if you’re one of the fortunate people who had someone else pick up the cost of your wedding, then working through the ridiculous may not be for you. But if bills are pilling up from your wedding, and you’re feeling a bit oppressed by the weight of it all, this prescription may be perfect for you, ridiculous or not: Give Thanks for your bills. Yep. That’s right. When I’m feeling the weight of a payment on my shoulders, or feeling resentful that I have… Read More »


-Launching Your New Life After Your Wedding Day

After Your Wedding Day… Now that all your months of planning your wedding day has resulted in a grand affair, you can finally call yourselves legally hitched, blessed and celebrated. It sure went by fast, didn’t it? Let’s Launch! How do you settle into the rhythm of being committed to each other for life, let go of who you were and launch yourselves into who you ARE as a married couple now? As in many things, there are actions you can take to help ease into the psychological change of moving from elation to everyday life. Experts, (including me) have… Read More »


– Should You Change Your Last Name or Not?

Your last name is either something you have to live with or you don’t mind it at all. This end word of your identity might be poetic, common or self-generated. I have always had the same last name. When I had a crush on Tim in 6th grade I wrote my first name over and over with his last name. He didn’t know I existed. In the 1960’s when I was in the midst of defining who I might possibly be when I “grew up”, the hippie era was born. Back then I had long straight blond hair like my… Read More »


-The Art of the Happy Fall Wedding

Northern Michigan is a splash of spectacular reds, neon oranges, greens and sunny carmel colors in the Fall. I love seeing kids and dogs jumping in piles of leaves and hearing the krinkle of dried leaves as I walk across them in the woods. Have you ever seen the changing colors reflected in the beautiful blue waters here? Oh man, the shiney, wavey hues are fabulous! All around is a gorgeous natural setting for any one brave enough to take on REALLY unpredictable weather and set their sites for a happy Fall wedding. Late September, October and early November has… Read More »


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