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Married Couple Commandment #1

Married couple Jason and Laura

Married Couple Commandment #1. You must keep dating.  By the time your wedding rolls around, you will have a pile of memories to build on. A good Officiant will draw from those memories you’ve shared and set them out as a gift to your guests for them to draw on.  Over time, this pool of memories gets used and worn.  You must keep replacing these memories by making new ones.  Make More Memories Dating gave you the way to make memories. Remember the date you went on that led to the first kiss? The first time you made love? The time you… Read More »


Homestead Resort Awesomeness

My couple at the Homestead Resort, Jenna and Tom

Bay Mountain, Bay Mountain! The Homestead Resort’s Top of Bay Mountain is one of my favorite wedding locations. When my couple chooses Bay Mountain for the site, I know everyone will be doubly awed. Not only by the couple’s love for each other (and the ceremony I’ve prepped for them  😆 ) but by the awesome  view.  When people who’ve never experienced how beautiful Michigan is arrive at this site, the expansive view always knocks their socks off. Lake Michigan looks stunning from Bay Mountain! The Homestead has been undergoing some remodeling and upgrading technology changes which is always exciting!… Read More »


Seeing Eye to Eye

Navigate the differences between yourself and the ones who may hold the purse strings to your wedding.  Click the link for your copy of 5 Pointers to Seeing Eye to Eye with the Ones Financing Your Wedding.    Contact us for how we can help smooth things over with you and yours. You CAN have the wedding ceremony that suits you perfectly even when you aren’t the one who’s financing your wedding.   


When A Wedding Team Truly Collaborates

Your wedding day will be awesome when your team truly collaborates. Check out this vimeo! Maire & Tyler from LM Visuals on Vimeo. Collaboration. What a wonderful experience. Is this what players feel when they’re on a football or baseball team? It’s truly infectious. In January I was honored to officiate for the wonderful couple who are featured in this video. Backstory Tyler and Maire had applied to win a contest where the services of 21 vendors (including me) were donated to the winning couple. $32,000 worth of wedding goodies and services. From event planning, video, photography, decorations, venue, beer,… Read More »


Stop Time on Your Wedding Day

Talk to your friend whose wedding has come and gone. Ask him or her, “What do you remember from your wedding day?” According to Reverend Clint Huff of the Wedding Ceremony Podcast a majority of brides will answer, “I don’t know. It was all kind of a blur.” It’s true, many people will want both of your attention. Congratulations will continue all evening long. Glasses may get clanged in order to get you to stop eating, drinking or talking and kiss. Stories will be shared of a guest’s own wedding day. Then there’s the shared memories of being in school… Read More »


Spiritual Laws of Relationship

spiritual laws

Creating a Spiritual Relationship When I first came across Paul Ferrini it was through a congregant who specialized in couple’s counseling and women’s issues. She assured me Ferrini’s reference to spiritual laws did NOT mean religious / theological expectations. There’s a distinction between the two. I’m pretty sure I went through the differences between spiritual and religious when we met to plan your ceremony. I can’t expect you to have hung on every word I said, so here it is again: There’s an unseen, non-judgmental, unconditionally loving energy that is the glue of the Universe. It is the essence of… Read More »


Can You Be Blinded By Love?

Rather Listen to this blog post?    I was stunned. Blinded by love Four months earlier I’d officiated for a really awesome, gentle and (here’s a somewhat old-fashioned word) lovely couple. They were all aglow on their wedding day, rosy-cheeked and grinning. They looked elegant and certain.  A few days ago an email from the groom laid out that after 2 months of marriage these two got into one hell of an argument. Nastiness ensued. Immediately she pulled away, and reportedly, didn’t want to go for counseling. I don’t know how the request for help was presented (I only know… Read More »


MFT’s Bring Matter from Mind

MFT’s  — My Favorite Things  Thanks to Julie Andrews bright voice in The Sound of Music and Richard Rodgers · Lyricist(s) and Oscar Hammerstein II who wrote the song, My Favorite Things (MFT), we have a very happy little ditty to remind us of what we love in our life. Even though it’s one of those songs that can get on an endless repeat, its lilting journey over and over doesn’t really bother me. Wouldn’t you rather listen to “MFT” than the jingle to that personal injury lawyer commercial? Because I know that whatever I repeat in my mind comes to matter.… Read More »


To Begin With Mary Oliver

          To Begin With, The Sweet Grass by Mary Oliver Evidence, 2009   1. Will the hungry ox stand in the field and not eat of the sweet grass? Will the owl bite off its own wings? Will the lark forget to lift its body in the air or forget to sing? Will the rivers run upstream?   Behold, I say—behold the reliability and the finery and the teachings             of this gritty earth gift.   2. Eat bread and understand comfort. Drink water, and understand delight. Visit the garden where the scarlet trumpets             are… Read More »


You’re Nervous Standing in Front?

Meditating so you're not nervous standing in front of people

How many of us do you believe DON’T get nervous standing in front of people? Professional speakers? Teachers?  Can you repeat after me: “I shall not place anyone on a pedestal.” Being in the public eye Many couples tell me they’re really nervous about their wedding because they intensely dislike being in the public eye. So okay. I get that. I’m so used standing in front of people to make a presentation that I AM used to it. But the “IT” is being nervous. It’s not that it doesn’t happen, but I’ve learned to manage the nervousness.  I appreciate you… Read More »


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