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Gay Love Appears Truly accepting gay love was a process for me. It was an idea that hadn’t been touched by experience. As a hippie, I debated legalizing pot, supported free love as often as I could. I was unaware that the closer I put the stereo speakers to my ears when Janice Joplin or Jimi Hendrix albums played, the less I could hear when I was older. I demonstrated against the war in Vietnam, joined the 1969 March on Washington. I was politically correct and I was politically upset. When I decided to learn how to shoot a gun… Read More »

… to Keep Your Marriage Interesting Download here:  21 Unique Dates Over the years I have asked my couples what issues bother them the most. (I’d love to hear from you on this subject too). More than anything else they tell me not having enough time to spend together is a sore spot. Is this true for you too? Because life happens despite our hopes and best plans. Getting a grip on success curls up around our toes and we trip over making connections with people we can help or can help us. Our best plans are pushed aside for seemingly urgent calls… Read More »

When you go to a sports event how many of you get caught up in the energy of the moment? Have you found yourself uncharacteristically screaming at the top of your lungs for the runner to slide into home plate? Or the quarterback to hurry up and pass the football to the running back? There are no sports genes in my body, and yet I too have found myself caught up at events, waving my hands and getting extremely excited – and that’s NOT my usual MO. Exciting Situations Why does this happen? Because you and I – everyone —… Read More »

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi In September, as I was preparing to perform a wedding ceremony, I was inspired to begin including in my wedding words something new.  For me anyway… “You are called not to make each other happy, but to be happy together.” I know this may sound contrary to much of what couples love about being together. Many of them tell me, “He or she makes me so happy.” This sentiment and feeling is real. And it’s a wonderful feeling to have. But the reality is… Read More »

Be With the One You Love As time goes by faster, and Fall is in our inbox, I am becoming more and more enamored by meditation. Recently I heard a meditation teacher talk about taking this journey inward just because it feels good. Not to “get” peaceful, or receive any answers but just because it feels better to become quiet and centered than wanting something to happen. And as these ideas unfolded, by watching my breathing and just letting my breath go in and out, not attaching to them in any way, I actually was just…well…breathing. Distractions fell away and for… Read More »

Priorities. Who knew there would be all those little things to manage in putting together your wedding? Hopefully, taking care of so many details is slowing down for you. Your wedding plans have more than likely come together. If not, you are probably very close to having things settled. Putting your wedding together has been a priority. You can congratulate yourselves on getting so much accomplished. Your wedding is bound to bring you and your guests so much joy! Soon it will be time to wonder what’s next. Life goes on. For most of you, careers are still to be built. Children conceived and  raised.… Read More »

Have you ever given a wedding toast? Does the thought of standing in front of a lot of people make your palms sweat weeks before the event? Do you forget everything you ever knew about the bride or groom you are toasting? Believe me, you are not alone. You are probably an introvert and we don’t thrive on public speaking. If you can handle it without any sweat, well, you were made for the spotlight. You my friend, are an extrovert. I love receptions where the best man and maid of honor give a short and meaningful wedding toast /… Read More »

Your New Identity as a Married Person When you get married, even if you have been living together for a long time, you are letting go of your old identity as a single person. The good news is you will always maintain your identity as an individual.  And the good news is you will take on a new identity. This is inevitable. And much more pleasant if you go with it and let it unfold. But to fight it is to invite misery. As a married couple, you have new advantages. But without releasing the old, in time, you may… Read More »

It’s noble that we think God needs our help. Those of us who believe we are doing God’s work, have to be super careful it’s not an ego trip we are on. Being taken up with our own importance. A weak sense of self being bolstered because we think others will approve of us for what we do. God doesn’t need our help. God needs us to be gentle and kind, strong and forgiving. Centered and sane. An expression of unconditional love. All these are tall orders and one that takes daily practice to even begin to live up to… Read More »

New Paths to There is a wonderful little park not far from my house in Williamsburg. It’s called Deepwater Point. This pine forest makes for a level hiking area which my knees and older dogs appreciate. There’s big roots that jut out along the paths, and lots of big tall pines. After traipsing through the woods, the path opens out onto a nice view of East Bay. When I need to be by the water to hear that lapping sound of the waves on the shore, or see the glitter of the sun on the surface, I’ll take Dutch and… Read More »