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One of the skills you learn or build on when you get married is how to solve problems together. You are a team member now who’s taken on the challenge to figure things out with each other. As a team, you’ll need to build an emotional bank account with each other. Cooperation, support, encouragement – these make deposits in the bank. Criticism, shame, digging your heels in without merit make withdrawals. Calling Card of marriage This emotional bank account building is a calling card of marriage. If one person does all the giving in, eventually all the sacrifices one of… Read More »

Bells and whistles of creativity Creativity is being able to take simple elements and let our imagination add bells and whistles in tasteful ways to reveal the wow factor. This is a quality I believed I had in large measure. You could see my creativity in the paint on the walls in the house, the finishes on my cabinets, the names of my dogs. If you read my bio, you’d think it was either creative or crazy how I traveled from one side of the country to the other. Over the years, my couples and I applied inventiveness to their… Read More »

During our pandemic times, As your officiant, I practice social distance as recommended by our national health team from the NIH.  I encourage you to make the safest choice regarding what you will do with your guests. Masks may not be pretty but they are part of today’s reality, and during your ceremony I don’t wear a face covering. Before and after, I do. You’ll exchange rings in a new way for me, but it’s so nice I’ll be keeping this new option even after we’ve got the all clear. These pandemic times  require extra precautions above and beyond the… Read More »

“Time is very slow for those who wait. Very fast for those who are scared. Very long for those who lament. Very short for those who celebrate. But for those who love, time is eternal.” William Shakespeare Forced to wait to get married Having to wait to get married would be difficult for me. Nope, patience has never been one of my virtues. I’m sure affirming this fact has never helped me develop that quality. When COVID-19 hit our world, and couples began postponing or rescheduling their ceremonies, I could hear the disappointment in their voices. Some lost large sums… Read More »

Awesome 2020 I’m so glad to see that wedding ceremony trends are taking on a more original nature AND meaning — that the setting, sentiments and elements are not just an ordeal to get through in order to get to the party. I attribute that in large part to the flexibility officiants and wedding professionals encourage these days. And the way free thinking is encouraged these days. A trend we hope will last! Stepping out of the stuffy nature of a wedding sermon is high on my list of preferences. Being unstuffy and unboring is freeing. To not be restricted… Read More »

First off, officiants don’t bite. When you look for one of us to lead your ceremony you may feel intimidated. There’s no need for this however. None of us wish you any harm. Ever. Even though you can never truly tell what someone is like if you don’t know them, on the whole we are kind and caring people. Kudos to you for biting the bullet to find the right officiant for your ceremony!  Our mutual attraction If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t get to be creative or ever enjoy being around someone like you. And you wouldn’t be… Read More »

Too many years ago, the way I wanted to own my moment on my wedding day, was to wear jeans and no veil. And my bridesmaids would be dressed in the colors of a political movement I supported. But that was again, way back when. FYI- My folks would have nothing of that plan (they’d have paid the bill) so not only did that design fail, but my boyfriend and I decided NOT to get married period. We’d keep living together. Which, BTW was a much bigger deal back then, than “cohabitating” is today.  Own Your Moment — What excites… Read More »

Powerful, Self-Image Changes to Make This Winter For me, one of the best times of the year is early spring, when plants and animals shake off the cold winter and bring back life to our environment. What a great metaphor for all of us. It’s the time I get to start putting words together to form a ceremony as weddings begin to take place after a winter of meeting, planning, and interviewing morphs into the day of… But I’m also fond of the fall, when the leaves are changing. When all life is prepared to tuck in and wait out… Read More »

The Things I’m Thankful for as a Wedding Officiant Life has an interesting way of reminding us to appreciate those things that we sometimes take for granted. Many years ago, when I first started on this career, I didn’t have money to make my new mortgage payment. I barely had food for myself or my two dogs in my refrigerator. I was too proud to ask my friends or family for help. I’d just left my church in Atlanta, GA. I foolishly  athought everyone was going to follow me into my new endeavors. They did not. Here it comes, the… Read More »