Your New Identity as a Married Person When you get married, even if you have been living together for a long time, you are letting go of your old identity as a single person. The good news is you will always maintain your identity as an individual.  And the good news is you will take on a new identity. This is inevitable. And much more pleasant if you go with it and let it unfold. But to fight it is to invite misery. As a married couple, you have new advantages. But without releasing the old, in time, you may… Read More »

Part 3 –What Does Prayer Have to do with Marriage? Click here to read Part 1, Spiritually Oriented for Life and Part 2, $24,500 Worth How is prayer related to weddings? Or related to getting married? Is there something about prayer that can help you now that you are married? And help in a way that is not religious but is spiritual AND reverent? As you approach your wedding day there are a million thoughts (at least) that come up. Thoughts like “what was it the DJ said about what time she would get there?” to “am I making a mistake… Read More »

If you’ve met or talked with me,  one of the first things I tell you about myself as a wedding officiant is I’m spiritually-oriented. I’m not really “religious”. I have nothing against religion because I know how religion is practiced is totally dependent on the heart and mindset of the individual. But religion on the whole promotes dogma and that’s not really my thing. So let’s just sit with the term, spiritually-oriented and be happy with it.  Most of you consider yourself spiritual as well. Religion and church for whatever reason has turned you off. Perhaps that’s the way of… Read More »