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Officiants with Flexibility

On your wedding day, having an officiant with some flexibility and open-mindedness so that they’ll meet you where you are is important to having a fabulous experience you’ll remember forever.    This is the first time you’ve looked for an officiant, right? Because you’ve probably never searched for an officiant before, take to your officiant interview a set of questions that ask more than “how much do you charge?” In depth questions will help you figure out if this person is the right one for you or not.   Start here with officiant flexibility facts Here’s a fact:  Your wedding… Read More »


Brilliant Ceremony Checklist

Wedding Ceremony Checklist Prep Steps Most of you have a wedding day checklist. I’ve seen your fat folders and bulging spiral notebooks. Planning the day, Your Day, is the first thing on any bride-to-be’s mind after saying, “I Do!” First Congrats! Second, don’t panic.   There’s a lot of pressure to get this right. And surely you know someone (who will remain nameless) that over planned, frazzled up, and lost their cool on the big day.   There is nothing wrong with having a plan. In fact, a well tailor plan can free your mind to concentrate on the things… Read More »


Create Your Own Wedding Ceremony Playbook

Write the Wedding Ceremony Playbook that’s about you As a creative and a wedding officiant I let my couples know they don’t have to write a wedding ceremony for themselves. That’s my job. I enjoy the challenge of putting words together to form a picture and a feeling. Plus I love to find things out about my couple and incorporate them into what I call my Framework Ceremony. It’s the bones of the ceremony I always use. There are officiants who create a new ceremony every single time. But over the more than 30 years I’ve been involved in leading… Read More »


Officiants Honoring Their Pets

Changed Life by Your Pet Here’s an invitation to share the name of an animal who changed your life. I’ve had many. Like the white dog pictured here. That’s Mugsy. I saw him born, he traveled with me, and put up with me. He and I walked miles and miles and miles together. is long-tailed fluff ball made my Dad learn to love small dogs. How about you? What pets made a difference in your life? I’d love to know the name of the lucky dog or horse, snake or parrot who made you a calmer, gentler, more fun-loving person.… Read More »


Questions To Ask In Your Officiant Interviews

Questions You Should Be Asking When You Interview Officiants By far, the most common interview questions I get asked are: How much does it cost for a simple ceremony Can you get our marriage license for us Do I have to sign my new name or can I keep my maiden name Do you require premarital counseling All great questions! And all important when you’re interviewing an officiant to hire for your once-in-a-lifetime wedding ceremony. But you know that whole concept of “you don’t know what you don’t know”? I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. And here’s the… Read More »


What You Wear and What Message You Send

I think you’re beautiful. This is true, first and foremost. What you wear, has to be fair for you. I don’t care what your age is, whether you’re skinny, tall, overweight, bulky, baggy, saggy or boney. You’re a part of this world, and you’re beautiful. Not about a Dress Code Depending on who you are, and your style, there is something telling about what you wear given the role you play. Underlying guidelines rather than saying you must wear something specific like a black suit and a pastoral collar. So let’s start here: how do you feel about the way… Read More »


The New Year Purge

How to Start Your 2021 Wedding Day with Less Anxiety You, like every engaged couple, want to have a wonderful, memorable wedding day. Don’t you? Don’t you love knowing your friends and family are going to be together for your most special day? Or that everything, down to the last detail, will go off as planned? But what happens when your hopes and dreams, i.e. wanting the wedding day of your dreams to be totally awesome, turns into unmet expectations, and huge disappointments because of safety protocols, lockdowns and vendor cancellations? I started 2020 with more couples booked than ever… Read More »


Bob Marley on Marriage — National Hugging Day

We deserve a hug, no doubt about it. So we’re here to share a replacement we hope will only last for part of 2021. But for now, the next best thing could be the wisdom of Bob Marley. Click the photo to enlarge, my friend, and let his words hug your heart and expand your mind!! Click >>>>> Bob Marley marriage for your pdf of Bob Marley’s words. Want to incorporate Bob Marley or Arctic Monkeys for that matter, into your upcoming wedding ceremony? Contact us for a chat about how we can highlight how who you are and the… Read More »


Perfectly Fitting Ceremonies

“Thank you for giving us such a wonderful wedding! We thought, at first, that we just wanted some quick, blah ceremony. We were, in fact, disappointed that we couldn’t just go to the courthouse! As our plans changed, we discovered you. Your words were powerful and so perfectly fitting! We both shed tears, and realized the true meaning of a legal and lifelong commitment.” Kellie and Barbara Perfectly Fitting Ceremonies The email above came a few days ago from a couple I recently officiated for. It’s very gratifying for me to know the ceremony I’ve tweaked over the past two… Read More »


A bank account without money

One of the skills you learn or build on when you get married is how to solve problems together. You are a team member now who’s taken on the challenge to negotiate with each other the kinds of things you enjoy as a couple. Then there’s all those things you did because you didn’t have to check in with or take action with anyone but yourself. As a team, you’ll need to build an emotional bank account with each other. Cooperation, support, encouragement – these make deposits in the bank. Criticism, shame, digging your heels in without merit make withdrawals.… Read More »


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